Jen Kirsch x Women’s Health

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For those of you have been following my tales of the heart for the past umpteen years on Blonde, Bronzed, Twentysomething, you can now find my more mature coverage for my fave magazine, Women’s Health. I am now the online Sex + Love writer for Women’s Health online. A total dream come true and love working and covering the latest newsy stories when it comes to dating, love and life. You can check out all my articles for them here.

Don’t have time to peruse and want pieces tailored based on your needs? Here are some of my most clicked and shared articles for Women’s Health that you might enjoy:

1. 9 Sign’s He’s the Guy You Should Marry
2. Single People Now Outnumber Married People3. Here’s What You Discover After Analyzing a MILLION Sex Toy Purchases
4. What Britney Spears Does to Feel Sexy
5. The ‘Bachelor In Paradise’ Men Share What They’re Really Looking For in a Woman
6. The 7 Best Times to Have Sex
7. What a Man’s Face Says About His Fertility
8. Why Jennifer Lopez Isn’t Giving Up on Love

Be sure to check out my first feature for Women’s Health in the November 2014 issue, which will be on newsstands next month.

– Jen

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I know what up

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As women we are blessed (for better or for worse) with a crazy sixth sense: Intuition. We know what up, when someone is into our other half, when someone is being a wee bit deceitful, when someone has something to hide. And yet, despite the evidence of our gut and body giving as physiological signs that something is off kilter, many of us fail to listen to said warnings, writing them off (if only to not rock the proverbial boat.) Well fuck that, friends. We should know better.

Done are the days of playing nice, keeping mum and walking on eggshells. This type of behaviour – though comes off as being more pleasant and pleasing to others – does no one any good. Worrying is one of the most negative thought processes, unworthy of our time and energy. We know this and yet we fall into the same ol’ pattern of thinking, as if this time is any different. Well it is, because after reading this wise post, you’ll be donning a pair of big girl panties and a whole lotta courage.

Sneaking suspicions are often more than just that. Our body reacts to things that are negative providing us with clear warning signs. Take them. Speak up for yourself. Inquire. Never accuse, but inquire. Investigate in a way that isn’t psycho, but is instead basic curiosity. Give yourself the respect you so very much deserve by tending to your suspicians. A common issue my clients report to me is that – though they trust their partner – they don’t trust other peoples intentions. Karma is something we should be aware of, but a crush is a crush is a crush, and many fall for those already spoken for. Though fun and festive to read in our fave gossip mags, it’s heartbreaking as fuck to actually experience, and potentially observe as someone tries to squeeze their way into your other halves mind, heart and potentially pants.

Approach it. Tell your other half, in a calm, cool playful way that since you think he’s hot as fuck you think said person MUST think he’s hot as fuck, too. Admit that – even though you know it’s not so becoming to have these suspicions – your body is telling you something more than nothing is up. Listen to what he has to say. Listen to his energy. Defensiveness is always a bad sign, but if he reassures you and seems honest, at least you can put it out there so he knows to change his behaviour. More than anything, be that grown up that tackles things head on. You can thank me later.

– Jenny Jen

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It’s the little things

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You are one of a kind. You have your quirks. You have characteristic traits that are you unique and exclusive to you as a being. These things that combine to make you the amazing young lady that you are –  flaws and all – are the key things that will draw in the right romantic partner for you.

I’ve spent most of my twentysomething in various long-term relationships (3 years, 3 years, 1 year, 10 months,) and none seemed to fit. I found myself turned off by my past partners flaws, scars and baggage and they to mine as well. There was always some sort of disconnect, and as I my thirtieth birthday, it’s clear to see that those relationships weren’t healthy. They were experience building, no doubt, but they wouldn’t have lasted.

So, what does a relationship expert think it takes to make a relationship last? Why the little things, of course. And big thanks to my man, for teaching me just that. Because not a day goes by where he doesn’t show me just how in love with me he is. And a relationship like this has no secret recipe. There are the basics: a mutual respect, a balance and a strong sense of authenticity. But above that it comes down to being attentive to your partners needs and wants and attending to those said needs and wants without being prompted.

Ask yourself: What puts a smile on my partners face? At the end of the day, we want our other half to be happy and our own happiness grows seeing them happy, right? So predict their wants. Does he love a certain type of beer that’s hard to find? Why not surprise him with a six pack in your fridge when you know he’s had a long day at work? Does he always put on his shirt inside out? Compliment that you love him for that. Do you work in the service industry? If he visits you, why not send him over his fave drink right away and make sure it’s constantly refilled?

Tune into the things your partner says. The foods, snacks and drinks they eat and crave. The songs that make them feel ‘happy,’ and induce their ‘game face.’ Take the time to seep in all of the little things that your partner values and cares about and then surprise him and reference those things often.

Not a day goes by since I met my man, that I haven’t told him how so very lucky and grateful I am to have him in my life. I never needed him and was never looking for someone, but he has been the best compliment to my life and much of that falls back on us having a balanced, mutually loving and respectful relationship where each day is another celebration to help one another smile.

The little things go a long way because these reassurances and needs he seeks are often hidden to everyone but you. By tending to them, you’re showing him that you listen, you remember, and you care.

– Jenny Jen

Photo: Jen Kirsch and Martin Jensen. El Doraldo Castitas Resort. Property of blondebronzedtwentysomething.