Jen Kirsch x Women’s Health

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For those of you have been following my tales of the heart for the past umpteen years on Blonde, Bronzed, Twentysomething, you can now find my more mature coverage for my fave magazine, Women’s Health. I am now the online Sex + Love writer for Women’s Health online. A total dream come true and love working and covering the latest newsy stories when it comes to dating, love and life. You can check out all my articles for them here.

Don’t have time to peruse and want pieces tailored based on your needs? Here are some of my most clicked and shared articles for Women’s Health that you might enjoy:

1. 9 Sign’s He’s the Guy You Should Marry
2. Single People Now Outnumber Married People3. Here’s What You Discover After Analyzing a MILLION Sex Toy Purchases
4. What Britney Spears Does to Feel Sexy
5. The ‘Bachelor In Paradise’ Men Share What They’re Really Looking For in a Woman
6. The 7 Best Times to Have Sex
7. What a Man’s Face Says About His Fertility
8. Why Jennifer Lopez Isn’t Giving Up on Love

Be sure to check out my first feature for Women’s Health in the November 2014 issue, which will be on newsstands next month.

– Jen

The role the past plays in your present

While doing one of those clean ups the best of us refer to as ‘spring cleaning,’ I happened to come across my old memory card from my phone.  Curious as to what sorts of images were on it, I removed my current one from my BlackBerry and replaced it with my old one.  On it: over two thousand images of photos taken throughout the past couple of years.  Most though, consisted of healthy, vegan meals I used to make on the daily for my ex and I.  I also noticed just how pint sized I was, something I hadn’t noticed at the time despite others remarks.

As I clicked through all the pictures I was reminded what once was.  How healthy I used to be.  How I’d try at least one new recipe a day for days and months on end.  It was in that moment, as I was observing my former self that I remembered how healthy minded I felt at this time.  This alone has acted as motivation since.

We often get so caught up in a way of being that we just go with the flow.  Dinners out with the girls, one drink that leads to one more than we really need before calling it a night.  Foregoing a yoga class or a workout to sit on a patio, sun on a shoulders, sangria in our freshly manicured hands.  And so the gym and that routine gets pushed aside and it’s ever-so-hard to get back into it the more time passes.

Sometimes it takes looking at our past so we can observe both how far we’ve come since then, but also so we can use the past to guide our present.  Since things tend to happen for a reason, I am certain that I was meant to come face-to-face with my former self to get back on the wagon, as they say.  Since then I have been eating home cooked vegetarian (and at times, vegan) meals and have hit the yoga mat at least once daily.  I’ll still indulge some nights, but realize just how good I feel when I live well.

We often say we’ll start tomorrow.  Start back at the gym, start crossing off things from our to-do list, start eating better, drinking more water, the works.  You’ve got to start somewhere.  Just go for it.  For we all know, the more healthy minded you are, the better mental place you’re in, the more likely you’ll attract a healthy mate.  Get on it, girls!

– Jenny Jen

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Rip-your-pants-off kind of attraction

You can’t get your hands off him.  Your lips off his.  It’s like a battle of ‘Would I rather look at him or ravish him” because clearly you can’t get enough.  When your not with him, you’re texting with him, making references to inside jokes and memorable moments from the night before.  When you’re not with him you just so can’t wait til the next moment that you are.  To be in his presence is to want to be nowhere else in the world, for in that moment you have it all.  You need nothing, really.  Nothing from him.  Nothing from anyone.  Just that electric chemistry that radiates between the two of you, pulling you together in a way in which no words or logic could possibly describe.

Passion.  That, I suppose, would be the one word (if I were pressed to nail one down.)  You see they say your true match is your best friend, because that lust, that chemistry, that “initial” attraction fades over time.  Yet some couples have that and everyone, when around them can feel it.  It’s jealousy-inducing.  It’s caught in the glimpses one catches his hand grabbing her behind.  It’s caught in that first peck they give each other when you see them meet up at a bar.  It’s caught in the way their eyes indulge one another; those eyes you feel invasive for even noticing as a sheer observer.

So the question with this passion, with this life-changing, never-been-felt-with-anyone-else, overdrive of attraction chemistry felt between two individuals is: is it enough?

I’ve learned to trust my body.  To read my body.  To observe it and listen to it.  For example, when my head hurts I know something is wrong.  Perhaps I’m dehydrated, perhaps I didn’t get enough sleep.  My head-aching is my body’s cue of telling me something is wrong.  Instead of rushing to cover up that feeling with an Advil, I instead try to take care of the actual problem.  The same way us women have a sixth sense if a guy is cheating on us, or if something is off, our stomach knots up, we get shaky, our throats get choked up; these too are signs the body gives to tell us something is wrong.  Which is why, when our body and mind and heart is electric around another, when we feel like our best self and are in extreme want of that same other ad nauseum, if both partners feel the same way, I presume that’s the body’s way of saying something is very, very right. No?

– Jenny Jen

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