As women we are blessed (for better or for worse) with a crazy sixth sense: Intuition. We know what up, when someone is into our other half, when someone is being a wee bit deceitful, when someone has something to hide. And yet, despite the evidence of our gut and body giving as physiological signs that something is off kilter, many of us fail to listen to said warnings, writing them off (if only to not rock the proverbial boat.) Well fuck that, friends. We should know better.
Done are the days of playing nice, keeping mum and walking on eggshells. This type of behaviour – though comes off as being more pleasant and pleasing to others – does no one any good. Worrying is one of the most negative thought processes, unworthy of our time and energy. We know this and yet we fall into the same ol’ pattern of thinking, as if this time is any different. Well it is, because after reading this wise post, you’ll be donning a pair of big girl panties and a whole lotta courage.
Sneaking suspicions are often more than just that. Our body reacts to things that are negative providing us with clear warning signs. Take them. Speak up for yourself. Inquire. Never accuse, but inquire. Investigate in a way that isn’t psycho, but is instead basic curiosity. Give yourself the respect you so very much deserve by tending to your suspicians. A common issue my clients report to me is that – though they trust their partner – they don’t trust other peoples intentions. Karma is something we should be aware of, but a crush is a crush is a crush, and many fall for those already spoken for. Though fun and festive to read in our fave gossip mags, it’s heartbreaking as fuck to actually experience, and potentially observe as someone tries to squeeze their way into your other halves mind, heart and potentially pants.
Approach it. Tell your other half, in a calm, cool playful way that since you think he’s hot as fuck you think said person MUST think he’s hot as fuck, too. Admit that – even though you know it’s not so becoming to have these suspicions – your body is telling you something more than nothing is up. Listen to what he has to say. Listen to his energy. Defensiveness is always a bad sign, but if he reassures you and seems honest, at least you can put it out there so he knows to change his behaviour. More than anything, be that grown up that tackles things head on. You can thank me later.
– Jenny Jen
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