Jen Kirsch x Women’s Health

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For those of you have been following my tales of the heart for the past umpteen years on Blonde, Bronzed, Twentysomething, you can now find my more mature coverage for my fave magazine, Women’s Health. I am now the online Sex + Love writer for Women’s Health online. A total dream come true and love working and covering the latest newsy stories when it comes to dating, love and life. You can check out all my articles for them here.

Don’t have time to peruse and want pieces tailored based on your needs? Here are some of my most clicked and shared articles for Women’s Health that you might enjoy:

1. 9 Sign’s He’s the Guy You Should Marry
2. Single People Now Outnumber Married People3. Here’s What You Discover After Analyzing a MILLION Sex Toy Purchases
4. What Britney Spears Does to Feel Sexy
5. The ‘Bachelor In Paradise’ Men Share What They’re Really Looking For in a Woman
6. The 7 Best Times to Have Sex
7. What a Man’s Face Says About His Fertility
8. Why Jennifer Lopez Isn’t Giving Up on Love

Be sure to check out my first feature for Women’s Health in the November 2014 issue, which will be on newsstands next month.

– Jen

It’s the little things

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You are one of a kind. You have your quirks. You have characteristic traits that are you unique and exclusive to you as a being. These things that combine to make you the amazing young lady that you are –  flaws and all – are the key things that will draw in the right romantic partner for you.

I’ve spent most of my twentysomething in various long-term relationships (3 years, 3 years, 1 year, 10 months,) and none seemed to fit. I found myself turned off by my past partners flaws, scars and baggage and they to mine as well. There was always some sort of disconnect, and as I my thirtieth birthday, it’s clear to see that those relationships weren’t healthy. They were experience building, no doubt, but they wouldn’t have lasted.

So, what does a relationship expert think it takes to make a relationship last? Why the little things, of course. And big thanks to my man, for teaching me just that. Because not a day goes by where he doesn’t show me just how in love with me he is. And a relationship like this has no secret recipe. There are the basics: a mutual respect, a balance and a strong sense of authenticity. But above that it comes down to being attentive to your partners needs and wants and attending to those said needs and wants without being prompted.

Ask yourself: What puts a smile on my partners face? At the end of the day, we want our other half to be happy and our own happiness grows seeing them happy, right? So predict their wants. Does he love a certain type of beer that’s hard to find? Why not surprise him with a six pack in your fridge when you know he’s had a long day at work? Does he always put on his shirt inside out? Compliment that you love him for that. Do you work in the service industry? If he visits you, why not send him over his fave drink right away and make sure it’s constantly refilled?

Tune into the things your partner says. The foods, snacks and drinks they eat and crave. The songs that make them feel ‘happy,’ and induce their ‘game face.’ Take the time to seep in all of the little things that your partner values and cares about and then surprise him and reference those things often.

Not a day goes by since I met my man, that I haven’t told him how so very lucky and grateful I am to have him in my life. I never needed him and was never looking for someone, but he has been the best compliment to my life and much of that falls back on us having a balanced, mutually loving and respectful relationship where each day is another celebration to help one another smile.

The little things go a long way because these reassurances and needs he seeks are often hidden to everyone but you. By tending to them, you’re showing him that you listen, you remember, and you care.

– Jenny Jen

Photo: Jen Kirsch and Martin Jensen. El Doraldo Castitas Resort. Property of blondebronzedtwentysomething.

Our Future, My Now


You’re invited to join a group of friends for a halloween themed, falls day event. You feel great being included and invited to tag along – appreciative that they don’t see your single ass as a third wheel – and though you no doubt want to join them on the fun, you can’t help but think of your ex, knowing he would’ve loved to be a part of this gettogether. A part of you wants to shoot him a text to include him, or to even share with him what you’re doing (knowing it would put a smile on his face) but you know better than to mess him up in your constantly changing emotions. You know by updating him on your whereabouts and sharing this moment – even if it’s over the phone – might just give him words to misconstrue, confusing him about your intentions. So you resist the urge, and prep for your day full well knowing if he found out about it, it would trigger a soft spot – even for but a moment – a silent wish on his end that he could be there, despite everything.

In relationships we plan for the future in just about every moment. ‘Oh that apple picking farm sounds adorable, we should check it out,’ or ‘I hear the haunted houses in Niagara are unreal, we’ll have to go around Halloween.’ We plan this and we plan that. Parties to host, places to vacation, restaurants to try, adding one thing after the next on the ongoing to-do list, that same list every couple compiles when in good company.

So what happens when you get invited to be a part of these to-do’s you once planned with him? How do you accept these invites and play out moments that you pictured him being a part of, without letting those thoughts take over your present? How do you find the strength to keep on keeping on when there is an obvious longing, whether it means something or not? And most importantly, how do you deal when you see your significant other playing out your future, with company that isn’t you?

This person is no longer in your life. At least not right now. So how unfair it would be to allow their silent influence to affect your decisions, your behaviour and your opportunity to embrace an invitation for a good time, especially when these are things you’ve wanted and hoped to do. We are the ones who choose how we want to move forward. We can create a party within each moment, if only we don’t hold ourselves back. Celebrate the moments you are given, acknowledge the sentimental factor, and feel fortunate that you were with a person who wanted to plan for the future with you. But that future that you planned is your now. They are no longer here to be a part of it with you, but this moment is yours for the taking. Take it.

– Jenny Jen

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