It’s one month into your relationship. You are spending every single solitary minute with one another, other than when you’re both at work. You can’t remember ever spending – or even wanting to spend – this much time with another person. You can’t seem to get enough of each other. You leave his place in the morning, only to hear from him ten minutes later, anxious to book you in for after work. As if there’s even a question. Butterflies are dancing in your stomach and you both are bouncing off one anothers interest, enthusiasm and energy. And it’s no wonder, we all want to be loved and appreciated and to feel good about ourselves. This other persons interest almost reaffirms to you that you are loveable. And the fact that you are both on the same page, well that’s just the icing on the cake.
The two of you can’t help but plan for all the future outings you want to take, things you want to do. He suggests bringing you up to his cottage, and you suggest bringing him along to a friends engagement party. And just when you think you might be rushing things, you realize it doesn’t matter one bit because this mutual interest is all the confirmation you need. You’ve never been happier and you can’t ever imagine not being with this person again.
Which is why, when he suggests you both get a dog together, you likely want to say yes. You might pick the breed, you might agree on a name, you might be won over by the fact that this man’s man of a guy will let you call the shots and give in to you wanting a ‘bitch dog,’ but be weary. The only one thing we know that remains consistent is change. Before you take action, give yourselves time to live in the present and not make any drastic decisions so early on, especially one that binds you two together.
We often mistake a mans agreement as a sign that he’ll never leave us, that we’ll always get what we want, and that he’s able to meet our needs, but we are likely just as accommodating at the start of a new relationship as well. The start being the first six months (no matter how many days and endless hours and weekends you spend cacooned together.) Before you involve a live being into the mix, make sure you two can navigate together without another distraction. A dog isn’t a prop.
– Jenny Jen
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