Defining Dates

You’ve been dating a guy for a while now, and things are going pleasantly smoothly post the initial honeymoon phase. You’re beginning to realize that this is no longer just a fleeting thing, and once assured by him that he feels the exact same way, you make it official. So the question that begs to be asked is, what day is the anniversary?

Is it the first time you ever hooked up? Your first date? What if you were ‘dealing with’ one another prior to the first date? Is it the day you have the ominous Talk? Is it the day that you felt feelings? Is it the first day he sent you a message on J-Date/Facebook/Plenty of Fish?

I’ve often wondered how other couples navigate the decision of The Anniversary. To set one is to create a future milestone of sorts. To tally up the years you’re together. To have an excuse to dress up, celebrate and share sentiments of we-isms. Some couples celebrate it monthly, others perhaps annually, and some celebrate the minor milestones such as the six month bench point. The sort of do or die month before future talk really begins.

For me, I’ve found that the start of the story is the day in which everything begins. Even if you are both still dating others at the time, even if it’s not the best date because something else is taking away from it. As soon as the start button is pressed, unbeknownst to us at that moment, the wheels are turning and it’s on that particular day in history that we begin to differentiate this person from just another notch under our belts. Instead he is a guy who we want to proudly present by our side, our other half.

– Jenny Jen

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2 thoughts on “Defining Dates

  1. I just started reading your blog and I think it's pretty cool (even though I'm a brunette, fair, twenty-something). Anywho I agree that the anniversary should be when the ball gets rolling — like the first date because that's truly the beginning.

  2. LOVE this Jen! Jason & I count our "anniversary" as they day we first met – from that day on we were something…and that something turned into something very special. Ever since that random day in November I haven't looked at any other guys the same… it's really neat how it all works out! love your blog as always xo xo

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