You’re dating a few guys. Ok fine, not a few but a handful. Each offer you different tastes; each offer you a different feeling of euphoria. Dependent on your mood and what you want out of your eve (and perhaps day, if he’s lucky) you pick from the pod accordingly. With a variety in selection you are one happy camper. None have brought up the dreaded, game-changing ‘talk’ yet, so the rest of the bunch are fair game. You’re not sure if any of these gents are dipping their sticks in the pool of love, and well to be quite honest, you don’t really care if they are or aren’t. ‘Each man for himself’, you think as you end a date so you can begin the next one on schedule, hoping not to mix up stories and inside jokes and references with the wrong partner.
Oh, to be a blonde, bronzed, single, twentysomething. No strings attached. Everything is fair game. It’s all glorious and glamorous until someone gets caught. Because as fun and flavourful as it is, once one finds out – with certainty – that he’s not the sole apple of your hazel eyes, the insecurity seed is planted and suddenly, more is expected from you. Starting with – first and foremost – the answering of questions you don’t think you deserve to even be asked in the first place.
So how does one lay low to prevent having to put a halt to her masterful juggling act? Here are some basic preventative tips.
How to have your cake and eat it too:
1) Forget the Invite: If you have an upcoming birthday and he asks where you guys are celebrating, let him know you’d rather have ‘alone time’ with him and keep him far away from your fete. The last thing you need is worrying about the drama that may be if he see’s you with someone else.
2) Facebook Monitoring: If you don’t want any of the ones your with to stumble on some cold, hard evidence, click the feature on Facebook that allows you to block people seeing your tagged pictures. Sure it will make you just a little more sketchy (as it should) but images say what words can’t and really honey, you may be good, but no excuses will get you out of that one.
3) Use your Words Wisely: Unless you tell him you’re exclusive, you aren’t lying per se if you are just not giving him all the information. Not being as forthcoming with some info is ok, but once you start making up excuses or lying, that’s when issues begin.
If after a couple months you still don’t know if this guy is boyfriend material, chances are he’s not. Release him to make room for more. Alternately, if feelings are coming up for one of the gents, consider giving up your run in the ‘dating around mill’ to invest your time, energy and efforts in him so not to have another regretful case of ‘the one that got away’.
– Jenny Jen
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