Look at you. You have a killer job, a killer body, a killer boyfriend, a killer apartment, but all you seem to be doing is looking at the aspects of these things that are lacking: The other girl in the office that you think is a bit more keen than you are, those thighs, the one time he fell through on plans, your friend whose apartment is bigger and decorated divinely. It’s a shame. You have it all, but you are so ridden with the cup-half-empty- syndrome, that you have no idea just how good you have it. I’m thinking it’s about time to start appreciating every aspect of your extremely enviable life and fill up your cup. How you ask? Perspective. By simply seeing the glass half full as opposed to have empty. Honey, it’s time to quench your thirst.
You and you alone are the only one who can determine your happiness. Now I don’t know about you, but I know I want to relish in the good life. I want to savour each sip. But it’s not always easy. It’s almost as if us women like to be kept on our toes so much so that we almost try to find things that are wrong just to challenge ourselves. I think back to the Sex and the City episode where Carrie is dating a guy who seems so perfect that when he leaves his apartment for work one morning, she searches around the place like a mad woman trying to find something, anything wrong. He comes home to surprise her, to find her looking in boxes (to which she found nothing of consequence) and she ended up looking like the crazy one.
When we miss the good, and focus on the bad, we become our own worst enemy. What we fear is not contentment or fulfillment but our own perspective. We end up sabotaging ourselves by this way of thinking. We end up pushing others away for not acknowledging the good they do – likely a result of our high expectations. So now what? Look at the good. Look and appreciate when your boss congratulates you on a job well done. When clients thank you for all you’ve done. When your boyfriend surprises you with your favourite bottle of wine. When a friend compliments your apartment and killer taste. Realize those around you love you for you and all that you do and don’t ever doubt yourself because you really do have it all. Now stop focusing on the bad and let it be but a passing thought, the same way a waterfall pours down. Acknowledge the water that passes by, and then drop it. Thoughts become feelings and then actions when we focus on them. Don’t let that crazy little overly active blonde head get to you. Now fill your cup, Mazel Tov! L’chaim – I toast to you, blondie.
– Jenny Jen
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