I sit in my room, as I kick back and relax after a long day at the office. My room is as girly-girl as it gets. It’s lit by a crystal chandelier (on a dimmer, of course), there are more than a dozen ‘throw pillows’ on my bed (for decorative purposes only) and the ever present and typical pretty-little-pictureframes dress my room everywhere from the wall, to counter tops, to shelves.
The picture frame is a staple in girly-girl rooms across the nation. Us girls love filling our room and home with images of our besties, boyfriends and our family. Plus, there are some ridiculously cute/trendy/fun picture frames out there that are insanely hard to resist (‘How cute would I look in that?’ I wonder, as if it were a new Herve Leger dress, before carrying it to the register). But as the frames sit in my room, time goes on, break ups occur, friendships sometimes sour, and we are left with an image in a frame just begging to be changed. So when is it ok to switch the picture in the frame? At what point do you go ahead and finally make the change? Is there a final straw? Do you throw the old picture out as you replace it with the previous persons, well…replacement?
There are three photographs in frames in my room that are begging to be changed. For the past few months, I’ve been pushing the change aside, but I’ve been fully aware that it must happen. Out with the old, in with the new. The thing is, the change is sort of bittersweet. It’s acknowledgement that a friendship has faded, and ultimately, it’s accepting that end. The thing with these oh-so-familiar phases of denial, followed by acceptance, is that they are always made easier with a replacement. I already know which photographs I’d like to get developed to fill the void of said pictures. New, strong bonds have been made and are at this point, ready to be displayed. I feel a bit guilty about the change, since it’s the internal knowingness that a few close friendships in my life have been replaced. Something that seems like such a medial task, is in fact overly emotional.
I like having a a good track record; sort of a whose who of my picture frames. As soon as I develop the new replacement photograph, I open up the frame and put the replacement at the very front, keeping the old photograph in the frame. I just stack the image behind, and continue to stack images behind the newest photograph I want displayed. I don’t change my frames often, but it’s amazing to see over the years, who you have replaced, and reviewing what went wrong with those relationships and how you’ve grown from them.
My decision to put a specific image in a picture frame in my room, is a very selective one. I place images in my frames of people who mean a lot to me, who I don’t see going anywhere in my life. People who I like to look up at my wall at, surround myself with, and who are positive people in my life. I refuse to put posed, cliche images in my frames. Instead, I put images in that reflect me as a person and the nature of my friendship/relationship to the person I’m in the image with. Pictures are snapshots of who you are. Unposed action shots, when the person taking the shot just so happens to catch you in the moment, are the shots I use to fill my frames. Not only do they say a lot about me, my friends and my family members, but they speak volumes about the person who took the picture as well. Every picture has a story.
Do you put thought into the images you place in frames in your room and in your home? Have you gone to a new guys place and caught sight of the images he has placed around and then make an opinion of him based on those pictures? And what about when guys have no pictures in sight? Do you label him shady?
I find it heartwarming going to a friends place, and seeing my smiling face gracing my own presence on their walls. There’s a fulfilling nature that comes with this realization that I’ve been selected, my friendship being promoted, in a home other than my dads.
– Jenny Jen