We wish before we blow out the illuminating candles on our birthday cake. We wish on the first star we see at night. We wish on those fluffy little weed like flowers we pick up as soon as we see one. We wish on shooting stars, four-leaf clovers, the clock once it hits 11:11 both a.m. and p.m. We look for an excuse to – for a moment – make a wish, a request we hope will come true, and then we leave things to chance.
I believe in chance, fate and signs, all which I’ve expressed in relationship columns I’ve both written for Women’s Post, and have been quoted in in The Globe and Mail. But where wishing goes wrong is it leaves whatever it is we want out of our control. I instead promote being more of a doer; taking more action in your own life. I therefore set each week with an intention for myself. Intentions can vary from inner peace, patience or – my intention for this week – freedom. It can be to be more accepting, more loving towards yourself, the intentions are endless. But whatever it is, take a moment at the beginning of your week to think about what you want. Your wish. Your goal. Then ask yourself, ‘What intention can I make to help me obtain that goal; that want?’
Change comes from within. The sooner we allow ourselves to open up to ourselves, the more inner peace we’ll have. What’s important to remind ourselves when wishing and wanting, is that there are many things that aren’t within our control. Do what is within your control to help you get where you need to be. I remember a story from the film Eat, Pray, Love, about a homeless man who would pray at a statue everyday and would wish day after day that he would win the lottery. Finally, one day the statue looked down at him and said (I’m paraphrasing here) “If you want to win the lottery, then start actually buying lottery tickets.” The point? Things won’t happen just because you will them.
- Jenny Jen
Photo Credit: Source.