Every word written. Every word uttered. Every single sentence strings through your subconscious as you try to determine why he *said this, why he said that, what it means and what you can do with this interpreted information (*feel free to interchange the word ‘said’ to ‘wrote’ you little texter/Facebook chat abuser you).
As a writer, I am very well aware that each word written I select has been selected with purpose; has unmistaken meaning to it. I choose words wisely, wary of how they might go interpreted, though fully aware of the easy-to-find double entendre’s, puns or references, should someone be looking for them. Which is why, I don’t dare give others the benefit of the doubt in doing the same. Therefore, the word choice of others is done with a specific purpose, if only I can read through the lines. They say things are right in-front of our very eyes, though little do we realize it. So how does one blonde figure out whether or not she’s making the proper analysis? How do we take off the blinders and see what is sitting in front of us?
By being realistic. By being attentive. By not making excuses and talking ourselves out of the obvious, because it just might be too good to be true. We often counter our own arguments that work in our favour, because we don’t want to be too hopeful. Hello, self protection. ‘No’, we think, ‘There’s no way he could be interested in me’ though he is showing you and telling you he in fact is. If only you could be that bold, bronzed, babe that you are and acknowledge it by being blunt.
Saying what we want and feel in a glass served straight up, isn’t a drink many of us care to down. So we play coy, and kinda conspicuous, leaving the meaning to which we want to project be open for unadulterated interpretation. Look closer. Pay mind to what could be on anothers’ mind. Sometimes things are so obvious, that we think nothing would be this obvious, so it can’t be. But it sure as hell can, kiddo. Don’t write anything off as confusion, or being hopeful and take everything for what it is. A sign. Right in-front of your very eyes that read on this very screen at this very second.
With the long weekend looming, we are free to allow ourselves to get lost in our daydreams today as we look forward to what’s to come: four work-free days to relax, unwind and to play out our long-weekend plans. A long weekend is a time we all look forward to. ‘Looking forward to’ allows us to anticipate a set of plans. It allows our week and days leading up to it to go by faster, because we know come weekend, all our hard work will pay off. Looking forward to something allows us to get excited. To plan out hair styles and outfits and even the colour we want for our mani/pedi weekly combo. When we look forward to something we know we won’t be left high and dry, peering out the window on a fun summers’ night because bitch has got a plan!
Men on the other hand are often known for not wanting to plan in advance (aka: wanting to leave their options open). Making a plan to them is tying them down to something, and there is a suffocating like fear that they will be held to that plan, locking them in. What if they are tired come Friday night and want to stay in? The idea that you might hold them accountable to their word, makes them not want to give it in the first place. So, the thing with making advanced plans is to not be so wound up that if something comes up, you aren’t able to be accommodating (read: on occasion, not if his bailing becomes the norm).
It means planning a special date night for just the two of you to enjoy together, without the stressor of work in the morning to cut it short. If you start the long weekend off with a date night, you assure yourself that you at least got some special time in, despite what happens the rest of the weekend.
But remember: the guy who is willing to commit to plans in advance with you, who makes and plans dates and surprises you, who see’s you more than once on a long weekend and who includes you in his other plans with friends and family, is the one who cares about you and wants to include you in his life. If you see signs of him putting off plans, lack of interest and often falling through on plans, perhaps it is time to reevaluate the balance of your relationship.
The joy of call waiting is not just the convenience factor, but instead is when someone deems you worthy enough to answer your call, and let the original call go. It comes down to picking favourites and if you are the one selected, it feels like winning of sorts. You place the call, you both banter and then they say one second and as you wait you realize they were on another call. They come back on and you chat away, all with this knowingness that you were the chosen one.
Who wins in the battle of the call waiting? I’ve been very attentive on my phone calls of late paying close attention to when I’m hung up for, when I’m hung up on, and when a friend openly acknowledges they have a call coming through on the other line, where they confess they are ignoring it. We often sit with our phones on our work desks, dinner table and even in our palms during visits to the hair salon (gasp!), so with that being said, how many people have ignored your incoming calls and for what – pray tell – is their reason?
The Person You Are Trying To Reach Ignores Your Calls Because:
- you have a question for them that they have yet to have an answer for and they don’t want to be guilt tripped or pressured - they are in a movie/meeting/shower/washroom/subway - their phone is on silent - they are trying to send you a message (hint, hint) - they don’t want to appear too available - they know you’re a yenta and don’t want to get locked into an ongoing conversation - they don’t appreciate your tone and you tend to bring down their mood - they are with friends and don’t want to be interrupted - they are trying to wean you out - they don’t want you to know where they are, but don’t want to lie either so better to just avoid your call - because you’ve already called them five time and your annoyance makes them want to prove a point
Am I missing any ladies? Why do you ignore calls and why do we take it so personally when we know we’ve done the same?