Giving and getting: a key to happiness

If you’ve been with the same partner for days and weeks and years on end, chances are he knows you and your patterns and your ways of beings more than you know yourself.  Chances are he has heard you out and knows just what to do to make you happy; just what to do to keep that pretty little smile on your face.

And so, with that in mind, it just becomes all the more frustrating when he does the complete opposite.  When he knows by solely stowing your fave bottle of vino in his fridge, would make you glow next time you open it, because he remembers it.  Or like him being more attentive to you on the odd days you’re on edge.

Whether in a serious or casual relationship, many of us fail to do what we know would make our partner happy, because we know by doing so we will create a deeper bond; a deeper attachment.  Many of us our scared of letting the walls down, because we want to protect ourselves from getting hurt.  How ironic it is though that by putting walls up we end up hurting ourselves more.

If your partner is one who is grateful for being invited out with you in your friends, included in some of your activities with others, include them.  If your partner is vocal with you and has been for ages about their wants and needs, instead of seeing as catering to them as ‘control,’ give it to them with pleasure, on your own time.  You see a wonderful thing happens when we give to others out of our own free will, with no expectations in return; with no intentions.  We end up getting back from them tenfold.  When reaching others needs and wants, they in turn have a greater appreciation for you and want to give you the same in turn.

They say like breeds like.  If your hope is to have your wants and needs met, make sure you’re doing that for others.  And if you make a promise you know that will likely make their day, try your very best to keep it.  This shows them that you are dependable, and are willing to commit to their happiness.

– Jenny Jen

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