The Grass Is Greener Effect


The grass is never as green as it is when you no longer have any grass. We always hear (and have likely heard ourselves say it one time too many) that you don’t know what you have until it’s gone. If only we could go back in time. If only we realized it then, when it mattered. But when we are so want-ridden, nothing ever seems to be enough. I see it all the time. My spoiled-ass coupled up friends go on the perfect dates with their other half. They are wined; they are dined. To all observers they have it all. But as night falls and insecurities seep in, they can’t help but pick a fight. Now I get it, a thought triggered feelings and you want to feel reassured. We often look at the one bad thing over all the good, but not only does this not serve us well, it doesn’t bode well for our boys either.

The thing is – like you – HE wants to be reassured. He wants to know that you acknowledge and appreciate his efforts. If he goes out of his way to see that smile of yours that makes his heart weak, and you somehow find something (somehow) to freak out about, you are in turn showing him not to do these things in the future.

Happy girls are the prettiest girls. It’s as simple as this: If he didn’t want to be with you, he wouldn’t. I’m sure you’ve had your fair share of ass-hole, unavailable guys in your life who didn’t put you on the pedastool your blonde, bronzed self so deserves to be on. So as your other half raises you up, allow him to do so with ease. Soak it in. Be mindful of his efforts and love and at the end of the eve, as your date night is coming to an end, hold him in close to you and say “thank you”. He’ll be penciling in his next opportunity to spoil you in no time!

- Jenny Jen

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One thought on “The Grass Is Greener Effect

  1. I think all of us women forget this at times, and crave that reassurance from our men. I like what you said about "If He didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't." It's so true. They aren't sworn into the relationship. If a man isn't happy with you, he will get out. Simple as that. So why not just enjoy the wonderful, beautiful thing you DO have together and trust in that? Once again, love the article.

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