How do you know when you’ve met ‘The One?’ And what makes said one different than the others? They say that when you meet The One, you just know it. The same thing they say on how to decide which wedding gown to choose. You just know. But what about us twentysomethings who don’t just know? Does that mean it’s not meant to be, or that ‘they’ don’t have it right?
In a day in age where accessibility to others is at our fingertips, it’s not so clear cut as it always once was. Because what if we’re totes happy with our dude, but then we meet someone out who just happens to add us on Twitter, who just happens to start DM’ing you, who you decide to kinda innocently add of Facebook (but you feel guilty about it,) who you start texting because your boyfriend is busy who you start Snapchatting with…Does this mean you’re emotionally cheating? Does this mean you guy isn’t for you? Not necessarily. We sadly know no better because lets face it, this is the way things are these days. But at the same time, it doesn’t make it “okay.” Oh and it sure adds a hell of confusion on your current sitch. So what’s a girl with an ego that likes to be fed when her cup has runneth empty? Reflect.
Ask yourself the following:
- does your partner make you a better person?
- love your flaws and quirks?
- do you love them for all they are without a need to “change” him in any way?
- are you currently happy?
- are your arguments immediately and easily resolved?
- do you miss your partner or long for them when you’re apart?
- do you often catch yourself smiling, just because?
- do you guys make plans for six months from now?
- do you discuss kids and marriage and are on the same page?
- have you grown as a person since being with them?
- do you catch yourself leaving events and gettogethers early so you can go home and cuddle up with him?
We are our own best enemies. Have always been, and always will be. The need to self-sabatage has been made ever-so-easy thanks to apps and social media sites alike. Flirting is all well and good, unless you feel the need to hide it from your partner. As soon as you lie or omit the real story, is the same time you need to really question yourself, your wants and where your at. If your partner is who you think just might be The One, don’t mess it up. Don’t deceive. When you try to quench your thirst for attention elsewhere, you’ll create a bottomless cup for your partner. Be honest with whatever it is that’s missing in your relationship that causes your big brown eyes to look elsewhere, and express that to your partner so they can give you what you need.
No one really knows if the person their with is the one, not even those who are married. We see this when people get remarried or widowed. There are so many people out there for us and all come in at different points in our so called life to help us grow in different ways, needed at the time. Stop questioning and just be. Be happy. Be loved. Love in return and do your best for things to work out for the best.
- Jenny Jen
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